Some of the most meaningful contributions to Middlesex Health happen with quiet generosity from families whose roots in our community run deep. Among them is the Doolittle family—Jay, his wife Donna, and their relatives—who are now in their fourth generation of running Doolittle Funeral Service, Inc. in Middletown and Cromwell.

For the past 18 years, Jay has served on the Middlesex Health Hospice Golf Tournament Committee, carrying on a tradition started by his father, John, who served on the committee in the 1990s. Since the tournament began in 1987, the event has raised $1.4 million for Middlesex Health Hospice Program, with Doolittle Funeral Service sponsoring the event every year since it started. This September, the family business was inducted into the inaugural class of the Hospice Golf Hall of Fame in recognition of its long-term support.

But for Jay, the recognition isn’t the point. “I can’t say enough about what the hospice program workers do,” he says. “They get families through challenging times. For families to know their loved one is cared for, it’s very meaningful, in my eyes.”

The Doolittle family’s support of Middlesex Health stretches back over a century. In the early 1930s, when motorized ambulance service was only a decade-old at Middlesex Hospital, Jay’s grandfather, Burton Baldwin Doolittle, donated a 1926 Buick ambulance to the hospital. “It shows roots and how deep the relationship between Middlesex and the family business goes,” Jay reflects. “It’s a generational relationship.”

As we thank Jay, his family, and his business for their continuous support of Middlesex Health, we invite you to consider including Middlesex Health as a beneficiary of a will or trust, a retirement account such as a 401(k), 403(b), or IRA, or a donor-advised fund. Your generosity and forethought will have a lasting impact.

For Annette Shea, Middlesex Health feels like home. Growing up in a close-knit Italian family from Middletown, Annette brought that same warmth and loyalty to her 18 years of service as an employee at Middlesex Health. She and her husband, Jim, have called Colchester home for 40 years, but her heart has always belonged to Middletown—and to Middlesex Health.

As the Middlesex Health Family Medicine Residency Program Coordinator, Annette became affectionately known as “Mama Annette,” a name given by one of the program’s faculty members. The Middlesex Health Family Medicine Residency Program trains physicians to care for patients of all ages, pediatric though older adults. The program was founded in 1973 and was the first four-year family medicine residency program in the country. Throughout Annette's 18-year tenure, she worked closely with doctors, nurses, staff, and formed bonds with over 200 medical residents as they completed their training and graduated.

“It was the best job I ever had—it made me happy,” she says of her time as an employee. “I felt like I belonged at Middlesex Hospital.”

That sense of belonging stayed with her even during difficult times. When each of her parents passed away years ago, many of the residents attended the wake and funeral, a testament to the family-like community Middlesex fosters.

Annette’s connection to Middlesex didn’t end with her retirement in 2009. Inspired by the impact of the health system on the community, both Annette and Jim made the meaningful decision to include Middlesex Health in their estate plans.

“This is my way of giving back,” she explains. “If my gift can help keep the teaching hospital going, that’s what I want to do. Anytime we can donate, my husband and I do it. This hospital played a very important part in my life. I am proud I had the opportunity to work with the best and the brightest.”

As we thank Annette and Jim for their dedicated support of Middlesex Health, we invite you to consider including Middlesex Health as a beneficiary of a will or trust, a retirement account such as a 401(k), 403(b), IRA, or a donor-advised-fund. Your generosity and forethought will have a lasting impact.

For decades, Harry E. Burr of Cromwell has been a loyal supporter of Middlesex Health, dedicating his time and resources, plus leveraging his community involvement to benefit the health system.

As a longtime corporator, he has witnessed the organization’s growth firsthand, and in 2003, his commitment to the community led him to establish a trust, naming Middlesex Health as one of its beneficiaries.

Harry and his family’s connection to Middlesex Health spans four generations. Many of his family members were patients at Middlesex Hospital, and two of his four children were born there. He fondly recalls the exceptional care his mother received decades ago: “She was at Middlesex Hospital and knew all the doctors there, and they just treated her like a million dollars.”

Over the years, Harry has played an active role in Middlesex Health’s fundraising efforts, serving on committees that have made a lasting impact, including the Emergency Department renovation in Middletown and, most recently, the 2023 campaign to open The Beit Paley Center and The Mayer Center.

“I have a great love for Middlesex Hospital. I have so many good associations there,” Harry reflects.

As we thank Harry, his family, and his business for their continuous support of Middlesex Health, we invite you to consider including Middlesex as a beneficiary of a will or trust, a retirement account such as a 401(k), 403(b), or IRA, or a donor-advised fund. Your generosity and forethought will have a lasting impact.

Middlesex Health has been an important part of Carol Parmelee-Blancato's life for decades. She became a Hospital corporator during her tenure as Superintendent of the Middletown School District in the early 2000s. Her sister, Bernice Bell, attended the Ona M. Wilcox School of Nursing and was a nurse leader at Middlesex Health for 30 years.

Carol's mother, Blanche Dumeer, lived at One MacDonough Place, the Hospital's assisted living facility in Middletown, until her passing at the age of 94. "Mom received quality care from the compassionate and devoted staff at One MacDonough Place, which was truly her home," said Carol. "And my brother and I will always be grateful for the care that Middlesex Health Hospice provided to my mom at the end of her life. She rallied four times due to their supportive care," said Carol. "Mom wished to pass away at home, and Hospice care made that possible."

To recognize her sister's commitment to the Hospital and the extraordinary care that her mother received, Carol has named Middlesex Health as a beneficiary of one of her annuities.

"I've always believed that I should give back," said Carol. "This is something that I spoke about at all of the high school graduations that I addressed. This community has so many great resources and services, and we are fortunate to have access to exceptional medical care. Middlesex Health is a first-class, state-of-the-art medical institution with progressive and comprehensive health services. I wanted to support the Hospital beyond my lifetime and can do so through my estate plan."

In addition to her support of Middlesex Health, Carol was actively involved with many local organizations during her near four-decade career in the Middletown Public Schools including the Middletown Rotary Club and the Kiwanis Club and its Warm the Children program. "I want the best for Middletown, and that is why I want to support the important institutions in our community like the Hospital," Carol said.

Thank you to Carol Parmelee-Blancato for her service to Middlesex Health and for including the Hospital in her estate plan.

From the day she was born, Kelly Smith has had a relationship with Middlesex Health. Kelly and her four siblings were all born at the Hospital, known as Middlesex Memorial Hospital at the time, as were her two children. Kelly's mother and sister are graduates of the former Ona M. Wilcox School of Nursing, a program that was run by the Hospital for nine decades.

Kelly also has vivid memories of spending a week in the Hospital to recuperate from a bout of mono. Her father drove as close as possible to the Hospital's window so that her brothers and sisters could wave to her from a highway overpass.

Now a local businesswoman, Kelly has dedicated her time to giving back to the Hospital and to other local nonprofit organizations. When Kelly began to think about making a difference beyond her lifetime, she made the decision to purchase a new life insurance policy and named Middlesex Health as the beneficiary. It was her first legacy plan, and she was inspired to take action because of her volunteer service as a Hospital corporator and as a member of the Middlesex Health Community Council and the Hospital's Philanthropy Advisory Council.

"I am happy to do everything I can to support the Hospital," Kelly says. "I am proud that we have a Hospital in our town that offers so much. My longtime involvement as a volunteer and my many family connections to the Hospital have been so meaningful in my life. I love my volunteer work. I am passionate about my community. It's just who I am. If I could make a living as a volunteer, I would!"

Kelly has a favorite saying that captures her lifelong passion for her community: "Life is an echo. What you send out comes back. What you sow, you reap. What you give, you get. What you see in others exists in you."

Thank you to Kelly Smith for her long-standing support and advocacy for Middlesex Health and for including the Hospital in her estate plan.

Although he moved away from Middletown more than 50 years ago, the community continues to hold a special place in Richard Daniele's heart. It was Middlesex Health physicians who cared for his father's heart condition and for various family members' ailments over the years. After years of making donations to support the Hospital's Critical Care Unit, Hospice & Palliative Care, and other programs, the Danieles decided to name Middlesex Health as a beneficiary in their will.

"My wife and I don't have children, and we feel very strongly that we should give back. Middlesex Health has been serving the community for years. I wanted to support my hometown, and the Hospital is such an important institution for the community that will be there for years to come."

As a boy growing up in Middletown, Richard recalls visiting his father's bowl-a-drome - which he owned and operated in the North End of the city in the late 1940s, before selling it to focus on his plumbing and heating contracting business. Richard attended what was then known as Woodrow Wilson High School and left Middletown to pursue a degree in education. Richard and his wife Kathleen were career educators. They received bachelor's and master's degrees and sixth-year certificates of advanced graduate studies in educational administration. Richard was employed by the New London Board of Education, and Kathleen was employed by the Waterford Board of Education.

In addition to supporting Middlesex Health, the Danieles support many local charities in their current community, including health care, the local library, and others.

Thank you to Richard and Kathleen Daniele for including Middlesex Health in their will to benefit generations to come.

A fixture in Middlesex County, particularly as a fundraiser and executive for the not-for-profit sector, Patti Anne Vassia is having fun being on the other side of the table. Rather than seeking support for any number of worthy causes, she is relishing her role as a philanthropist. Her first stop on the giving road is Middlesex Health, where she established a charitable gift annuity. Her gift will ultimately benefit the Hospital while lowering her taxes and providing her with a fixed annual income during her lifetime.

"Middlesex Health is foundational to the community," Patti says. "My life's work has been to build a healthy community - and what better place to leave a legacy than to the Hospital, the institution charged with keeping all of us healthy?"

While Patti has had a professional relationship with the Hospital for decades as a Corporator, her relationship with the institution became profoundly personal when her father moved from his Florida home to One MacDonough Place, the Hospital's assisted living facility in Middletown. Robert "Bob" Vassia called the place home from the age of 96 to 102.

"The best years of his life were his last six," Patti recalls. "It wasn't just the excellent care he received, it was the stimulating life he was able to live. He took advantage of everything! He never missed a painting class; he created beautiful works including impressionistic florals." For her father's 100th birthday, the resident chef planned his favorite Italian meal, a memorable feast served in the private dining room with many friends.

"My dad's caregivers allowed me to be the daughter - what a gift," recalls Patti, who visited her father nearly every evening to enjoy a glass of scotch with him. When Patti tears up, she explains, "I don't cry about my dad's passing, but about the wonderful care he received."

Patti originally came to Middletown to work as a youth and women's director at the YMCA, became a fundraiser for the institution, and then served as the executive director of the Middlesex United Way for 18 years before becoming the founding president of the Community Foundation of Middlesex County. Patti could have retired with the satisfaction of having made a tremendous impact on our community, but she remains actively engaged as a volunteer on not-for-profit committees and community projects. Thank you to Patti Anne Vassia for your enduring support of Middlesex Health.

The saying accompanying Bob Drouin's photo in his high school yearbook says a lot about the man: "Silence is golden." Bob was a quiet person who listened to people and embraced the role of provider. He worked from a young age, starting at a grocery store and eventually becoming an officer at The Hartford insurance company.

When Bob passed away, his sister Anita discovered that by thoughtful planning in his will he had left a sizable portion of his estate to ten charities - including Middlesex Health, Mystic Seaport, Fidelco Guide Dog Foundation, and United Way. Anita served as executor and noted that "his beneficiary choices were not random."

"He would have researched each organization," she said. "Everything was spelled out. All of the donations were restricted for a particular purpose."

According to Bob's wishes, his estate gift to Middlesex Health will be used for the purchase of new medical technology and equipment.

"Bob understood that medicine is constantly changing and that equipment needed to be updated," said Anita. "He benefited from a Triple-A stent procedure at the Hospital, and he wanted to provide for other patients in the future."

Upon retirement, Bob worked for the Hospital coordinating the Lifeline medical alert program; and he also served as a volunteer, making countless friends and presiding over lively lunchtime discussions.

Bob was the patriarch of his family, hosting siblings, nieces, and nephews for his favorite holiday, Christmas, which he did for more than 30 years in a house decorated with care and countless Santa figurines.

Anita shared, "Middlesex Health was here for Bob, not only for his health needs, but the Hospital enabled Bob to continue doing good in the world. He specialized in helping people in need."

In keeping with the private person that he was, Hospital staff was unaware that Bob had included the Hospital in his estate plan. Middlesex Health thanks Bob Drouin for his years of service to the Hospital and the community and for creating a legacy that will benefit others for years to come.

Joseph and Mary Adorno led very full lives, raising their family of three daughters while pursuing professional careers. Central to their lives was a strong belief in giving back to their community. They both made the time to make meaningful contributions to many organizations.

Judge Adorno represented the epitome of the public servant. He had a long and distinguished career as an attorney and in serving the State of Connecticut as a judge-reaching the level of Superior Court judge. He was also active with the Middlesex County Bar Association, the local Elks club, and the Garibaldi Society, and he served as a board member of Middletown's Russell Library and as a corporator of Liberty Bank. Judge Adorno was honored for his commitment to the National Foundation of Infantile Paralysis and received its distinguished service award.

Mary's commitment was equally strong; she gave unselfishly of her time and talents to many community and civic organizations. Among the many organizations to benefit from Mary's involvement were the Community Chest (now United Way), the YMCA, the Red Cross, and the Cerebral Palsy Association. According to her daughters, Mary felt her greatest contribution, and the one she was most proud of, was her involvement with Middlesex Health.

Mary was a Hospital volunteer for 52 years, contributing an impressive 5,570 hours of volunteer service. Those hours were served in the gift shop, in the thrift shop, at the reception desk, and by visiting patients. Mary especially enjoyed knitting baby caps for the newborns in the Pregnancy & Birth Center. In addition, Mary was president of the Middlesex Health Auxiliary and was honored to be appointed a corporator of the Hospital in 1969.

Following Mary's death in 2005, her daughters made a significant gift in memory of both Mary and Joseph. "It is enormously satisfying for us to make a gift to Middlesex Health in honor of our parents. The gift symbolizes their giving spirit and carries on their legacy of giving back to their community."

Through this special remembrance, the extraordinary lives of Joseph and Mary Adorno will continue to touch many served by Middlesex Health. For information on how you, too, can make a difference in the health care available to our community, please contact the Office of Philanthropy at Middlesex Health.

Lifelong companions, friends, and husband and wife, Albert and Anne Winter, have shared just about everything in their relationship-their love of travel, quest for learning, desire to experience new things, and a commitment to support organizations that matter to them-like Middlesex Health.

Albert was born and raised in Vienna, Austria. As a young man, he moved to Great Britain to complete his studies, graduating in industrial engineering. In the "Swinging '50s," as Albert likes to call those years, he met his wife at the English-Speaking Union in New York City after relocating for work across the Atlantic.

Native New Yorker Anne had already traveled worldwide. She served as a communications officer in the Coast Guard during World War II, responsible for coding and decoding military material. Following the war, rather than choosing government work in Washington, D.C., Anne decided to explore the world a bit. She opted for New Zealand and studied at a university in Christchurch. From there, Anne moved to Japan for a position in foreign trade and economics. Finally, after crisscrossing the globe, Anne returned to New York City, where fate took her to Albert on an evening out at a favorite gathering place, frequented by interesting people and offering lively conversation.

Once married, Anne and Albert moved around throughout the United States-Albert being active in the graphic arts industry and Anne now working as a librarian. They continued to travel-exploring the exotic, the picturesque, and from time to time, some extreme climates. After their globetrotting, they chose Madison, Conn., as the perfect spot for their retirement years. As new residents back in the mid-1980s, they quickly realized the value of having the Middlesex Health Shoreline Medical Center nearby.

Presently, Albert has passed the five-year mark after successful cancer treatment and Anne is now fully recovered from her cancer surgery. As a result of their health care experiences, both had a desire to give back to Middlesex Health and have become members of the Heritage Circle.

Anne and Albert return to their beloved Europe almost every summer. Between these jaunts, however, they are quite content to enjoy the beautiful Madison shoreline, which they fondly refer to as the "Riviera of New England."

Middlesex Health truly appreciates the Winters' generosity and warmly welcomes them to its family of donors.

Betty Laufer was known for her unwavering loyalty to the people she loved, dedication to Jewish causes, and a natural affinity for creative arts. Her remarkable life will continue to touch and inspire many.

Betty was born in Tel Aviv in 1931 and attended the Women's International Zionist Organization's (WIZO) art and design school. After graduation, she used her talents to work as a designer of children's clothing. In 1950, she married Sol Laufer, a Holocaust survivor, and began a happy, productive, and fruitful 54-year marriage. In 1960, Betty, Sol, and their two young daughters immigrated to the United States, where Sol hoped to realize his dreams of a better life. There were several moves and the addition of a son before the Laufers settled in Middletown.

When the family was young, Betty devoted herself to her children's education, activities and social lives, while running the household. She also worked full time as a technician in an electronic assembly plant to provide the financial resources necessary for the children's college education. Once the children were grown, Betty refocused her energies on Jewish causes and became an active member of Congregation Adath Israel, Haddasah, and B'nai Brith.

Betty's love of life and the importance of family helped to create remarkably strong bonds among her children, their spouses, and grand children. Each generation has wonderful memories of holiday celebrations orchestrated by Betty.

Desiring to remember his wife in perpetuity for her tireless efforts toward preserving Jewish education, Sol established an endowment in Betty's name at Hebrew College. This endowment will provide scholarships each year for students pursuing a master's degree in Jewish education or art. Additionally, in gratitude for the care Betty received prior to her death in 2004, Mr. Laufer established a charitable gift annuity to dedicate a room at the Middlesex Health Weiss Hospice.

Mr. Laufer's gifts remind us all that we, too, can make a difference in the lives that follow. Through these gifts, and in the ways in which Betty touched many lives, she will be remembered.

Alice Park, a Bostonian, attended the New England Deaconess Training School for Nurses. While she didn't share much about the care she provided to her patients, her son Charles admired her profession and wanted to support nurses in a way that would honor his mother’s legacy.

This inspiration brought Charles Park to the Middlesex Health Office of Philanthropy. He had a "few dollars" as he put it, "and if the good Lord keeps me independent 'til I go," he wanted to leave a bequest to Middlesex Health to pay tribute to his mother.

After careful planning with his advisor, and staff from the Office of Philanthropy, Charles established the Charles M. and Alice G. Park Fund for Nursing Education, which would be funded by proceeds from his estate. Charles passed away in 2016 and his named fund was established to support continuing education for nurses at Middlesex Health as they earn advanced degrees and specialized certifications.

Charles was a spirited man. His lifelong hobby-building small model locomotive steam engines and testing them on 15 acres of track with other enthusiasts-kept him busy during his long life. We thank Charles for establishing a fund that will benefit nurses and their patients for years to come.

These words aptly describe Charlotte "Sharlie" Barringer, a longtime Hospital volunteer and donor.

Sharlie grew up in a family that believed in the value of caring for others. Sharing the family's food or doing a kind deed for a neighbor was an integral part of her upbringing. Sharlie embraced her parents' beliefs, so, not surprisingly, volunteering has played a major role in her adult life.

Sharlie volunteered for many organizations prior to coming to Middlesex Health in 1984. "I have always been interested in the health care field and have a particular affinity for hospice," Sharlie says. "I took the hospice training and became involved initially on the inpatient unit. I made soup every Wednesday for the patients and families and became known as ‘The Soup Lady.'" Over the years, Sharlie also volunteered as a friendly visitor for hospice patients in their home. "It is gratifying to know that my involvement has made a difference by providing comfort to someone in his or her final days," she adds. Today, she is an active volunteer in the Pastoral Services Department at the Hospital.

Middlesex Health is fortunate to have many dedicated individuals who provide not only their time and talent, but also financial support. Sharlie is one such individual. She makes an annual gift to the Hospital and learned early on that making her gifts through appreciated securities provided great benefits. "It is a very easy process," she explains, "and by using appreciated securities I am able to make a larger gift than I could with cash." Even though Sharlie enjoys the financial benefit of a tax deduction for her gift, she will tell you "the best part is that I am investing in the good work of Middlesex Health."

Sharlie enjoys close family ties with her children and five grandchildren. And she values the work of Middlesex Health. "I believe in its mission and how it is carried out, and I have faith and trust in the administration and staff," Sharlie says. "It gives me a wonderful sense of satisfaction to know that my gift, in some way, is contributing to the success of the Hospital. The Hospital is an exceptional resource for the community and has earned my support."

Sharlie is a wonderful example of someone who genuinely cares for others and demonstrates her passion for Middlesex Health through her volunteer work and financial support. Clearly, she has made and continues to make positive contributions on many fronts.

If you would like to learn more about the benefits of making a gift to Middlesex Health using appreciated securities, please contact Laura Martino, Vice President of Marketing and Development.

"She was a brave warrior," says Jean Miller, when describing her older sister, Jan Edson. "She was wise and full of grace. Stubborn too," Jean says with a laugh.

Jan began her career in the laboratory at Middlesex Health and was forever grateful that the director of the lab, Dr. Christie McLeod, took a chance and hired her. Through thoughtful planning in her will, Jan left a legacy donation to Middlesex Health in gratitude for launching her career.

"It was crucial to her that she give back to Middlesex Health. She loved this hospital, which gave her her start. She was forever grateful for that." says Jean.

Jan Edson was the second oldest of four children, born in Coventry, Rhode Island. An active and athletic child, she contracted polio at age 13, the treatment for which including 11 months in the hospital and a year in a rehab hospital out of state. The disease left her paralyzed and unable to walk. Jan used crutches, leg braces and eventually a wheelchair and an adaptive car and bicycle to get around independently.

Jan was advised in high school not to bother pursuing a college degree because of her disability. "It was a day and age when people with handicaps did not pursue independent lives. They were expected to stay home and be taken care of by their families," says Jan's sister Jean.

This was not for Jan. She graduated from the University of Rhode Island in 1962 and pursued a degree in hospital administration from the University of Hartford. In addition to becoming manager of a laboratory, she competed as an athlete in ping pong, swimming and archery. She swam in the ocean every chance she got. At age 50, she took sailing lessons and learned to navigate a boat.

After retiring, Jan was actively involved in her church and community and travelled extensively with her lifelong companion throughout the United States, Asia, and Jordan. She even met the pope during a visit to Europe.

In a letter to her mother, Jan wrote "My life has been so full...it overflows with friends, family, courage, adventure, knowledge, and a zest of life. My accomplishments . . . have been so varied, so rewarding, so exciting, and so humbling."

Jan's final days were spent on the inpatient Hospice unit at Middlesex Health, which she described as the closest thing to being at home.

Many thanks to Jan Edson for including Middlesex Health in her will and for her years of service to patients while working in the Hospital's laboratory.

In 2019, Fakhir Syed and his wife Shazia were expecting their second child, a girl. Fakhir was overcome with joy and gratitude when he was able to be with his wife when their daughter was born at Middlesex Health's Pregnancy & Birth Center, located at Middlesex Hospital. "I was the first to see her and hold her in my hand," Fakhir says. "She had her first cry in my arms. It was a special day."

Fakhir missed being present when his first child, his son, was born. Shazia gave birth in the United States, where she lived when she met and married Fakhir, but Fakhir was living in his native Pakistan, awaiting a visa to join her. "My wife had to do everything by herself when my son was born because I wasn't able to be with her," Fakhir says.

Fakhir moved to the United States when his son was 4 years old. His son is now 13.

On the day his daughter was born, Fakhir made a promise to himself that he didn't share with anyone else. "I promised that when I had extra money, I would donate it to Middlesex Hospital in honor of my daughter," Fakhir says. "This year, I feel so lucky to have two jobs when so many people have lost their jobs because of the coronavirus pandemic. My daughter is now 1 year old. I was able to keep my promise and send a donation to the hospital."

"Whenever we have any problem, healthwise, we always look to Middlesex Hospital," says Fakhir.

Sid and Shazia named their daughter Wania, which means God's gift.

We thank Fakhir and his family for generously supporting Middlesex Health.

Rich and Judy Graves, of East Hampton, raised their family in Connecticut and had three of their four children at Middlesex Hospital. Today, they have eight grandchildren, ranging in age from 14 to adulthood. Rich first became involved with Middlesex as a corporator when he served as the station superintendent of the Connecticut Yankee Nuclear Power Plant.

For nearly three decades, the Graves have been loyal donors to Middlesex Health, making annual donations to support the health system's mission.

"We have a group of charities that we give to annually," Rich says. Middlesex has always been a favorite of ours. We've used the health system's services throughout the time we've been in Connecticut. We've had a good relationship with our doctors, and we use the Marlborough Medical Center for lab work and for emergency care."

On the advice of a financial advisor, Rich and Judy began making qualified charitable contributions through their IRA. This gives them the benefit of taking a charitable deduction on their income taxes, and it helps them meet the required minimum distribution from their IRA.

Even though the required minimum distribution regulation was suspended in 2020, the couple decided to make a generous donation to Middlesex Health through their IRA. They felt it was important to continue giving back.

"We've been fortunate, and we would like to share that with people who can use it at this time in our lives," Rich says.

We thank Rich and Judy Graves for their many years of support and generosity.

"I've been very happy with Middlesex's service and care… I feel like everyone is doing everything they can to support me."

Earlier this year, David Chase, a retired Connecticut Department of Transportation civil engineer, went for his annual physical and learned that his regular PSA test result was double the normal range. After more than a decade of being in remission, his prostate cancer had returned.

David knew he wanted to receive treatment close to his home in Marlborough. Over the years, he and his wife had positive experiences using the Middlesex Health Marlborough Medical Center, so he requested a referral to a Middlesex Health urologist.

"Things moved along very well," David said when recalling the many tests, MRIs and bone scans that were required for planning his cancer treatment. "I've been very happy with Middlesex's service and care. Every once in a while, I get a little concerned about my health, but we feel like I'm in good hands."

David started eight weeks of daily radiation treatment in mid-March—at a time when Middlesex Health was changing its treatment protocols because of COVID-19. This changed the experience a little for David and for other Middlesex Health cancer patients, but the same level of care was provided.

For David, it meant wearing a mask to all appointments and having his temperature checked at each visit. All patients and staff are expected to wear a mask when in any Middlesex Health facility. His wife accompanied him to all of his initial tests and consultations, but he was able to drive himself to all of his radiation therapy appointments because he has not had any adverse reactions to treatments.

"The staff is very friendly, compassionate and respectful," David says. "They are quiet and calm. It's easy to sit back and say we're gonna get through this. I feel like everyone is doing everything they can to support me."

Dr. Allen Silberstein and his wife, Irene, left Brooklyn, New York to come to Middletown in 1969 when he was hired to run the newly established Radiation Therapy Department at Middlesex Hospital, the first dedicated department for Radiation Oncology in a community hospital in Connecticut, chaired by a board-certified Radiation Oncologist.

Throughout his 38-year career, Dr. Silberstein brought a patient-centered approach to cancer treatment that was always mindful of patients' needs. He assembled a dedicated staff and together they focused on the physical and emotional well-being of the men and women under treatment. He was one of several physicians who brought hospice care to Middlesex; he also recruited a board-certified medical oncologist and they initiated joint conferences with surgeons to affect coordinated cancer care. Dr. Silberstein served as president of the local chapter of the American Cancer Society. For a number of years he spoke to fifth and sixth graders about the dangers of smoking, bringing a cancerous lung to illustrate his talk. Many of those students, now adults, have told him that the scarred lung had influenced them to reject smoking.

Irene was active in the Medical Alliance with other doctors' spouses; she was a dedicated fundraiser, giving back to the community with scholarships for nursing students and radiology techs. As president, she initiated Project 2000, a campaign to donate money to assist individuals in need. She also volunteered for many non-profits, was a founding member of the Sari Rosenbaum Fund for Women & Girls, and worked at a local radio station, doing voice-overs and writing ad copy. Irene is the author of a romantic comedy, Shrink Wrapped, written under the pseudonym Irene Silvers.

Now enjoying retirement, their home is a welcoming place for family and friends and for their own artistic endeavors. Their expansive backyard is a sculpture garden featuring Allen's work in found metal material. They also collect art and sculpture and enjoy entertaining.

But even in retirement, they have not lost the desire to give back.

The Silbersteins have a passion for a variety of causes they care about, manifested by an extensive history of supporting Middlesex Health as well as charities that seek cures for disease, promote social justice, sponsor the arts and aid Jewish philanthropies. Recently, they included a generous legacy gift in their estate plans for the benefit of Middlesex Health's future investment in radiation oncology technology.

Thank you to the Silbersteins for their lifetime support and their commitment to give back.

When Doreen Gagnon retired from her second career as a social worker for Middlesex Health Cancer Center, she wanted to establish a lasting legacy in honor of her late husband, Joe, and to continue the work she had done to support cancer patients.

Motivated by a desire to help patients and families cope with the diagnosis and treatment of serious chronic illness, Doreen decided to create a special interest fund to support cancer patients at Middlesex Health. She also included Middlesex Health as a beneficiary in her estate plans in order to continue this support for years to come.

Like Doreen, you can help support the work of Middlesex Health by including a gift in your estate plan. We invite you to begin a no-obligation conversation with our development team and we look forward to speaking with you about the gift that best matches your intentions.

Edward S. Scovel, 98, was born and raised in Middletown and has a connection to Middlesex Health that spans decades and generations. Edward’s late wife, Gladys, also known as “Hap,” worked part-time for the health system for several years as a maternity nurse. Their daughter, Nancy, followed in her footsteps, working as a Middlesex nurse for 29 years. Currently, Edward’s daughter-in-law, Linda, works as a respiratory therapist at Middlesex, and his granddaughter, Jessica, works as a case manager.

Since he was young, Edward and his family have been Middlesex Health patients. “A lot of my family members have gone to Middlesex for a variety of reasons,” he said. “I remember this from the time I was a little kid.”

This long-standing relationship with Middlesex inspired Edward to give back. Decades ago, he established a charitable gift annuity with the Middlesex Health Philanthropy Department — a decision he says has benefited both him and the organization. As a former business owner, Edward knows the value of a sound financial decision. At 98, he also appreciates the benefit of the highest charitable gift annuity payout rates. Edward donates his charitable gift annuity payouts back to Middlesex Health.

“When I donate every year, I give a little more than the quarterly payment,” he said.

Edward's philanthropy extends beyond Middlesex Health. As a World War II veteran, he also supports veterans' organizations. Additionally, as an animal lover who has traveled to Africa more than a dozen times to photograph wildlife, he contributes to causes that protect animals and their habitats.

Thank you to Edward and his family for their continuous support of Middlesex Health.